About to ask? Start here.
Proposal Advisor is the guide and the planning app for the months between deciding and asking. Think of us as the best man who's done this before, here to help you build a proposal that's unmistakably hers and yours. The ring, the blessing, the words, the day itself. In order, on time, without the panic.
In the exact order you'll need them, from the first conversation to the day after.
The average proposal takes that long to plan. We pace you so the last month stays calm.
The guide costs nothing. We earn from vetted picks, disclosed every single time.
Nine chapters. One question.
Read it straight through or jump to the chapter you need this week. Each one ends with a way to put it to work in your plan.
Before You Plan
The conversations about marriage, money, and the future that come before any of this.
Inside: The proposal should be a surprise. The question never should be.
→ 2.The Budget
Set a number you won't regret, and keep every dollar accounted for.
Inside: The three months of salary rule was invented by a diamond company's ad agency.
→ 3.Her Dream Proposal
Decode her style from the clues she's already given you, then choose your five components.
Inside: The 80/20 rule: the structure is for her, the heartfelt emotion comes from you.
→ 4.The Ring
The 4Cs without the jargon, the shapes, the settings, and where smart buyers actually shop.
Inside: A 0.90 carat looks nearly identical to a 1.00 and can cost 12 to 20 percent less.
→ 5.The Blessing
How to ask her family for support, not permission, and what to say when you do.
Inside: Listen more than you speak. Their objections are often misunderstandings you can clear up.
→ 6.Date, Place & Vendors
Lock the where and when, then book the photographer before the good ones are gone.
Inside: Golden hour is the hour before sunset. There's a reason it's the gold standard.
→ 7.The Speech
What to say on one knee. Specific memories, forty-five seconds, her name at the end.
Inside: She'll remember the feeling, not the word count.
→ 8.The Day
The play-by-play, the backup plans, and how to stay calm when it counts.
Inside: The perfect proposal is the one that actually happens. Excellence, not perfection.
→ 9.After the Yes
Insure the ring, plan the announcement, and take a week to just enjoy it.
Inside: Family hears it from you first. The feed can wait a day.
→“Your proposal isn't a performance. It's a question.”
“The average proposal takes 4.5 months to plan. We suggest six, so it never becomes a sprint.”
“The right ring is the one that fits her taste and your number.”
Read a chapter. Then put it to work.
Enter one date and you get a timeline, budget, and checklists built around it. Free to use, saves automatically, and picks up on any device.
A timeline built from one date
Tell it when you plan to ask and every deadline falls into place, from ring order to final vendor confirmations.
Decoy Mode
Someone walks up behind you, one tap, and your screen is reading the sports page. When the coast is clear, one tap brings your plan back.
Know where your money stands, line by line
Estimates, actuals, and what's left before the day.
The Ring Studio
Her size, her style notes, your shortlist, and the 4Cs sweet spot from Chapter 4, all in one private place.
Spend where it actually shows.
The 4Cs decide the price of every diamond. Knowing where the value hides is worth thousands. Here's the short version.
Never compromise
Cut makes the sparkle. An Excellent cut flatters everything else about the stone.
G to H wins
Looks icy white to the eye and costs well below the D to F grades nobody can tell apart.
Eye-clean beats flawless
VS2 to SI1 is the sweet spot. You shouldn't pay for flaws only a microscope can find.
Buy just shy
A 0.90 carat looks nearly identical to a 1.00 and can cost 12 to 20 percent less.
Vetted, so you don't have to guess.
The vendors and products we would use for our own proposal, with the reason each one earns its spot.
Flytographer
Vetted local photographers in 350+ destinations, plus a concierge who helps you map the exact moment.
Visit Flytographer →Blue Nile
One of the largest online destinations for certified diamonds, with search filters that let you run our exact grade recipe before you spend a dollar.
Visit Blue Nile →The Mrs. Box
Heirloom velvet ring boxes in dozens of colors. The box becomes part of the story she keeps.
Visit The Mrs. Box →One useful email a week until you're engaged.
Then we stop, and you go plan a wedding.
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